There was a particular relationship that I was in many years ago that was truly doomed from the start. Had I taken off my rose-colored glasses and been honest with myself, I’d have known that it was never going to work. His outlook on life, friendships, family was very different than mine. And while I can’t really blame him for this, I just didn’t like who I was while I was in the relationship.
Fast forward several years and I met my husband. We worked together so I had the pleasure of knowing the “professional” version of him, and truth be told, that was a big part of why I fell in love with him. I was able to witness first hand how hard he worked and how he never complained, no matter how much work was thrown his way or how difficult clients were. He treated everyone fairly, was always friendly and helpful, and was just easy to be around. These are great co-workers to have in the workplace- the people who always smile, have great attitudes and take on challenges with ease.
I’m so thankful to have married him. It’s refreshing to be with someone who loves to laugh and rarely gets flustered. He inspires me to always see the glass as half full. (believe me- I sometimes need to be reminded of this)
I stumbled upon this article from Brand Mentalist that talks about being with someone who inspires you and I couldn’t agree more. If the goal is to be with someone for the rest of your life, let it be someone who pushes you to be the best version of yourself that you can be.
This isn’t always easy, but it’s certainly worth the work…
Fall in Love with Someone Who Inspires You
Nothing is worse than being demotivated, discouraged, and misunderstood by the one you love. Seeing several couples getting divorced and carrying emotional baggages from that, I believe it’s important to be with someone who has similar attitude and perspective of the world as you. It is not right to try to change someone, nor is it okay to let someone try to change you.
As a matter of fact, the word should be “inspiration”. You should be with someone who inspires you to be a better person and vice versa. With inspiration comes happiness from within, joy in activities you’ve never thought of doing, beauty in things you’ve never seen, and love in places your heart’s never been to.
There’s nothing better than inspiration. It’s hope injected by creativity and imagination. It’s motivation without force. It’s encouragement with a touch of heart. It’s a positive energy that is out there to give the heart a tingling push. It’s the emotional foundation of change for the better.
Since inspiration doesn’t stick around forever, it’s important to be with someone who inspires you. I want to be inspired to be a better person as much as I inspire them. I want to continuously push myself forwards in every aspect of my life – be it business, education, beliefs, culture, values, attitudes, and mindset. I want to be inspired to try things I never thought of doing or have always wanted to try but never got a chance to. I want to be inspired to read books I never came across, to go to places I’ve never been to, to eat what I have never eaten, to see beauty in things I never thought I’d fall in love with. And I want to do the same – to be the person who inspires that someone to be better, and to do, see, try, and appreciate things he never did before, to move forwards in life, to be positive and be happy and motivated from within.
Inspiration makes us better. Inspiration makes us want to do something. It moves our emotions, our intellect, and our behaviour.
We need to be influenced to feel happiness and love, influenced to deeply care for someone other than ourselves, influenced to better ourselves while we better those around us.
Inspiration is the fuel of life – it helps you stretch your limits, step outside of your comfort zone, and pursue higher heights.
Be inspired. Inspire others. Our world could use a bit more of that.